Book Review: Unbridled: a memoir by Barbara McNally

imgresA copy of Unbridled was sent to 4Mothers a few months back.  The jacket synopsis intrigued me but between the daily chaos of life and a pile of delicious books waiting to be devoured on my night table, Unbridled sat unread.

When packing for my mom conference in Miami, I opted to leave behind the meaty read that I had just started in favour of something lighter and easy to entertain while sunning on the beach.  Unbridled seemed like the perfect choice: betrayal, divorce, sexual awakening, feminist liberation . . .and it’s just over 200 pages.  Perfect for the lazy days ahead.

Barbara McNally was raised with a strict Baptist upbringing and spent her youth engaged in church activities and living a demure life according to her parents’ religious views.  As a young co-ed she met the man of her mother’s dreams and blinded by other people’s expectations she lost herself in a seemingly perfect marriage.  Many years pass and Barbara is unable to squelch her feelings of restlessness and seeks salvation in the arms of another man.

After her divorce Barbara finds herself truly alone for the first time in her life.  No longer under the rule of her father or husband, she is forced to create a life of her own.   Inspired by the memory of her ebullient, free-spirited, Vaudevillian grandmother, Barbara sets off on a wistful journey of self-discovery where she returns to her ancestral roots in Ireland and later to a hedonistic retreat in Jamaica.  In both countries she opens herself to experiences that profoundly change her idea of self.  Finally she is able to shed the expectations of others, push aside the notion of perfection and embrace life’s lessons in the most poignant situations.

Barbara awakened her passion and is now dedicated to empowering women and encouraging others to forge their own life path and create their own destiny.

McNally’s writing is rich with vivid descriptions making the Irish countryside and sun-soaked Jamaica come alive off the page.   Her writing is at times heart-breakingly honest as she bares herself entirely, exposing her nastiness, fragility and ambiguity at the risk of offending her readers but her transparency is genuine and engaged this reader’s encouragement.  Nonetheless there are moments, albeit few, where I wished the author had not been so cursory in describing seemingly intense events, in particular when she learns her father’s rectitude is nothing but a sham.

Unbridled has a familiar tone and message to Eat, Pray, Love  by Elizabeth Gilbert but Barbara McNally’s journey is filled with less navel-gazing and searching for love than her struggle to connect with and liberate herself.  As someone in a fulfilling relationship who has never been divorced, I was skeptical as to whether Barbara’s memoir would keep my attention but the message of her tome is universal: live life fearlessly, embrace experiences as they come and re-connect with your roots to better understand your present.  Husband or no husband, kids or no kids this is a book about being a woman and nurturing the beauty that lies within.

Books to Make a Mother Laugh

Has the crazy advertising started in your neck of the woods?  Mother’s Day is coming.  If you are looking for some suggestions for humourous gifts for the mothers in your lives, or a Mother’s Day treat for yourself, here is a handful of books that made me laugh.

Shitty Mom: The Parenting Guide for the Rest of Us

by Laurie Kilmartin, Karen Moline, Alicia Ybarbo & Mary Ann Zoellner

New York: Abrams, 2012.

A hilarious stand-up routine of a book written by 4 mothers!  (A different four!)  Three of the four mothers who wrote this book also write for television (the fourth writes books), and it shows in the timing of their humour.  Better yet, they can say stuff here that you can’t say on tv, and this is a wildly inappropriate parenting ”guide.”  Included are chapters on how to send a sick kid to daycare, how to avoid having a child who will want to do team sports (read, make you drive them to said sports), and how to keep texting and sipping your latte while other mothers parent your children on the playground.  Totally tongue in cheek, it also hits many of the parenting sore spots and makes you smile wryly at the mess you are in.  This was a Valentine’s Day gift from my beloved, and it was a perfect antidote to the shelf full of advice books that take themselves too seriously.

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Jason Howell

Toronto: Magenta, 2012.

Another Valentine’s gift from my husband, one that accurately portrays that species of hockey mom who, while she does not scream advice from the bleachers, is nevertheless capable of deafening other spectators with her cheers.  Not that I know anyone like that.  (There’s one in blue, for dads, too.)

The Kid Dictionary

by Eric Ruhalter

A hilarious dictionary of words made up by the author in order to fill the void of parenting situations that call for a precise word.  One from of one of our readers who left a comment on my earlier review of the book: sneezoning: (n) what is added when your child sneezes on his or her food.  See my earlier review here.

Transport To a New Place

imgresThere is no refuting the overwhelming evidence that a solid early literacy foundation translates to greater successes later in life but yet I have heard from parents that it is difficult to find the time to read to their school-aged children.

It’s true that when our young school aged children are often tired when they get home from school, finish off their homework and attend their various activities but there is inherent value of being read to.

About a year ago, Marcelle introduced me to the series Canadian Flyer by Frieda Wishinsky (similar to The Magic Treehouse series but the emphasis is on Canadian history).  This Christmas, I gifted to my boys the first in the series, Pirates Beware! We have since devoured several books in the series.

The boys sat and listened as I read them chapter after chapter.  Their attention did not wane from the first word that I read to the time that I closed the book.

Finding the time to dedicate to read each night did not prove to be inconvenient.  In fact the boys and I look forward to each night discovering what our “friends” are up to.

As the boys grow confident in their own ability to read, they enjoy being read to even more than when they were toddlers holding board books.  Now they can sit and listen for longer periods of time and while they enjoy looking at the occasional illustration peppered throughout an early novel, they are just as content to let their imagination do the creating for them.

Literacy is about more than simply reading, it also encompasses comprehension (understanding what the story is about) and inferencing (thinking about what will happen next, how characters were feeling, why characters may have acted in a certain way, etc.).

I like to engage my boys while I am reading to them.  I ask questions:

-       What do you think will happen next?

-       Why do you think she acted that way?

-       Has anything like that ever happened to you?

-       What a would you do if you were in his shoes?

At the end of each chapter, I ask them the 3 R’s:

  1. To Retell what happened.
  2. To think of how they are able to Relate to what the characters experienced.
  3. To Reflect on what happen and suggest what may happen next, or why something happened the way that it did – make a connection.

The Three R’s of Writing

To take it steps further consider your child’s interests.  My oldest enjoys drawing.  After I have finished reading aloud a chapter book, he writes a reflective sentence about the book (maybe something he learned) and draws a picture to accompany the sentence.  Then he stores the page in a binder.  This binder is a fantastic tool to have on hand for when grandparents or friends come visiting.  Your child can proudly share and retell the story with grandma the stories he has been enjoying through the reflection pages that he has completed.

If your child is more like my other son and prefers the computer to a paint set, why not engage his interest?  We keep a list of interesting facts or tidbits as we read through the book (e.g. pirates got scurvy) and once the novel is complete we take our list to the Internet and further research those interesting facts.

He looked up pictures of scurvy and maps of the Canadian Arctic, discovered that Captain Frobisher looked nothing like what he’d imagined!  There is a plethora of fantastic kids websites that do a fantastic job of integrating technology with history thereby creating a fun and engaging way to learn about the past.

Always remember that reading should be a transformative experience.  For those hours spent deeply engaged in a story, your child has the chance to escape their reality and virtually experience something different without the use of screens, remotes or controllers but through the power of the written word and the imagination.

Resources worth checking out:

Kidspace

Turtle and Robot (fantastic suggestions – I have raved about them before)

The Canadian Children’s Book Centre

Guys Read

Educating Alice

Happier At Home By Gretchen Rubin

I thoroughly enjoyed The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, and I am a regular visitor to her blog.  So when I read that she had a follow-up to her bestselling book, and that it was all about how to make a happier home, I was eager to get my hands on Happier At Home.

My own home has been a bit neglected of late.  There was a time when I read shelter magazines from cover to cover and would then be motivated to make or do or add or subtract some essential thing to the house.  Lately, things have stalled.  I’m simply overwhelmed by the enormity of it all.  There are books in every room, which makes my heart sing (even though I have long since run out of shelf space), but there is also Lego on every blessed floor of the house.  I’ve tried and tried to containerize it, but the boys will insist on playing with it, and taking it out of the many containers to which I have tried to encourage them to confine it.  Then there are the papers, and the piles of things waiting to be put away, and the drifts of things I’ve piled up to deal with “later.”  The pile by my desk is almost taller than I am.  I’ve hit that point of saying, “I just can’t face it all!”

This is why one piece of advice from Rubin’s book is particularly welcome: go shelf by shelf.  Instead of trying to tackle the entire house-worth of mess, tackle just one shelf.  Usually, doing so will give you the push you need to go further.  Or not.  But at least that shelf (or closet or counter or drawer) got done.  A corollary piece of advice is to suffer for 15 minutes a day.  In Rubin’s case, the suffering was facing the task of catching up on dealing with family photos.  This is something I desperately need to do too, but the real suffering is going through the disks of recovered data from my Horrible Computer Incident and putting my files back in order.  God, how I hate the thought of facing that.  But she’s given me inspiration, if not joyful anticipation, just by describing coming to the end of her own dreaded and enormous task.

I raced through Happier at Home, but I will confess that some of that haste was a rush just to be done with the book.  Rubin has a strong personality, and while I found her voice endearing in the first book, I felt she hadn’t quite pulled it off this time ’round.  Or perhaps, as a less eager consumer of shelter magazines, I am also a less eager reader of advice books.

Still, one piece of advice from her last book has stuck with me for years: make the bed every morning.  Simple and seemingly obvious as it sounds, making the bed every day really does make me feel more in control of the entire house.  I used never to care about the bed, but there is such a simple joy in seeing it made, and such power that comes from that tidiness.

I’m off to plan when to suffer daily for 15 minutes, because I really do need to get the computer in order.  But not now.

The Kid Dictionary by Eric Ruhalter

The Kid Dictionary: Hilarious Words to Describe the Indescribable Things Kids Do

by Eric Ruhalter

Naperville, IL: Sourcebooks, 2012.

I’m one of those people who loves to have the right word for the right occasion.  I’ll chop garlic with any old knife, and nevermind the garlic press.  The right tool for the right job, however, is a prize beyond rubies when it comes to language.

Imagine my delight when we were sent this book full of words made up for the job of parenting.  Right from the very first word (feelabuster: (v) to pat down your toddler before she leaves a play date at someone else’s house to make sure she isn’t stealing anything), Eric Ruhalter had me laughing out loud, gleeful not only at recognizing the scenarios that gave rise to the words he’s made up, but their wonderfully apt accuracy.

These are some of my favourites:

invisibooboo: (n) the site on a child’s body where you unnecessarily applied a bandage to appease him when he got hurt, even though no blood ever appeared

freak of nurture: (n) a child who, without any prompting, wants to eat well-balanced meals and avoid junk food, gets enough sleep and exercise, and realized the value of his education

hypocriticize: (v) to yell at your kids to keep their voices down

daduation: (n) the painful realization that you are quickly and irreversibly turning into your parents

adrenalad: (n) a child who will never ever under any circumstances admit that he is tired

harrask: (v) to persist in asking again and again for permission to do something in the hopes that the answer will change from no to yes

snoot: (v) to suck in rather than blow out when blowing your nose

wishjack: (v) to blow out the candles on another child’s birthday cake

whyarrehea: (n) an inquisitive toddler’s chain of questions rattled off in rapid-fire succession

Santastrophe: (n) a parent’s misconception that her baby will enjoy being handed to an enormous, white-haired, long-bearded bespectacled stranger in a blood-red fuzzy suit for a Christmas photo

scoozer: (n) a child who only has something to say when you’re on the phone or in the bathroom

This book would make a great shower gift or a Mother’s or Father’s Day gift.  The only downside to the book that I can see is that it does not include blank pages for readers to add their own neologisms.  One of ours is Tooty McFartypants to describe the more flatluent members of the family.

Do you have any?

Thanks to Sourcebooks for sending us a review copy.

What We’re Reading

From Nathalie:

Swimming Studies by Leanne Shapton. 

I could not put this book down.  It’s beautifully written and illustrated by Leanne Shapton, whose stunning Native Trees of Canada was wallpapering my neighbourhood bookstores a few years ago.  She has now published a memoir about her years as a competitive swimmer, and aside from a fascinating view into the life of a competitive athlete, Shapton treats us to beautifully articulated insights into what it means to live for that life of competition.  Here is a sample of her precise prose: “Say I’m swimming with people, in the ocean, a pool, or a lake, and one of them knows about my history as a swimmer, and remarks to the others, ‘Leanne’s an Olympic swimmer.’  I’ll protest: ‘No, no, I only went as far as the Olympic trials—I didn’t go to the Olympics.’  But the boast bobs up like a balloon, bright and curious to some, wistful and exposed to me.”  Her ability to see herself from these multiple angles is, I think, the key to the success of this memoir, and though I am about the farthest you could possibly be from a competitive athlete, I found a lot to identify with in her observations about herself and her place in her world.

Speaking from Among the Bones by Alan Bradley.bradley

Alan Bradley’s Flavia de Luce mysteries are, hands down, my all-time favourite mystery series.  Flavia, the narrating detective, is an expert in chemistry (knowledge which always serves her detection efforts), and she is eleven.  Her limits as a narrator, and the wonderful ironic gaps that emerge when a child narrates a murder mystery, only add to the books’ charms.  I don’t know how I managed to miss news of a new book from Bradley; I usually have these things on wishlists months ahead of publication.  Imagine my delight when I opened my weekend Globe and Mail books section, and saw a review.  I kid you not, the minute I read about its publication, I ran out of the house to buy it.  I had read it all by bedtime.  Bradley is Canadian, but he captures life in an English manor house and village with an impeccable ear for dialogue.  If you have not heard of these books, begin at the beginning with The Sweetness at the Bottom of the Pie, and delight in the fact that you have four more books ahead of you.  As my gluttonous devouring of this book may indicate, I cannot recommend them highly enough.

Housekeeping by Marilynne Robinson.51MZ8248R0L__AA160_

Originally published in 1980, this is a book that calls to be savoured.  I read a book like this and think, “This woman was born to be a writer.”  There is a voice and a vision here so powerful, so her own, that there is no doubt that she has a vocation for it.  This is not the work of a writer’s workshop or of an agent and editor who will take a manuscript and try to make something marketable out of it.  It was a beautiful and devastating read.  The narrator is a girl whose mother has committed suicide, and she and her sister are left to navigate their way through childhood with a series of hapless guardians.  The plot is unhurried, the prose is some of the best I’ve ever had the joy to read:  “The immense water thunked and thudded beneath my head, and I felt that our survival was owed to our slightness, that we danced through ruinous currents as dry leaves do, and were not capsized because the ruin we rode upon was meant for greater things.”

From Beth-Anne:

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Small Wars by Sadie Jones.  We meet Hal Treherne at his graduation from Sandhurst where it is revealed he has aspirations to follow in the footsteps of his decorated father and grandfather.  At this celebration, Hal meets Clara, the sister of a classmate.  Clara and Hal marry and settle into a happy, mundane routine but Hal grows frustrated by his post World War 2 military desk-job and longs to see action and prove his worth to his military family.  Hal readily accepts a transfer to Cyprus and Clara, although hesitant to leave their neatly carved existence with their young twin daughters, agrees and is hopeful that they will find a peaceful life safely ensconced within the confines of the British base and the sun-kissed Cypriot climate.  Shortly after they arrive, Cyprus explodes into a full-fledged revolution and Hal is charged with regaining order of the British colony.  Hal’s eyes are soon opened to the atrocities of war and he quickly learns that not everything is as black and white as his days at Sandhurst.  Sadie Jones writes with such rich description and her characters are achingly real, deeply flawed and stayed with me days after I finished with the book.

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The Almost Archer Sisters by Lisa Gabriele.  Beth and Peachy couldn’t be more different.  Beth lives a self-absorbed, face-paced life in the New York City and Peachy, a stay-at-home mom to two young boys lives a simple existence with her husband and their hippy, hair stylist, draft-dodging father in rural Ontario.  The story is not very believable and is painfully predictable but what separates this story from any run-of-the-mill drugstore paperback is Lisa Gabriele’s writing.   On page 122-123 Peachy gives her sister Beth a complete run-down of what she can expect from her day as a stay-at-home mom.  The passage extends for two pages by the conclusion packs a punch that is illustrative of the spunkiness and complexity of her characters.

“ Get Sam to help you carry things, Beth.  He’s strong enough and he likes to.  Your show’s on tomorrow night, so make sure you tape it for Lou because he plays softball.  He’ll pick up the boys.  They eat hot dogs for dinner there.  Beau meets them after work.  But since you’re staying, make Beau’s supper tonight.  For tomorrow, it’s Chinese, but pick up some iceberg lettuce at Silvano’s next to the Laundromat.  But don’t buy anything else there, it’s too expensive.  Lou likes to make the dressing.  While Beau eats, draw a bath for Jake.  Make sure you get behind his ears.  Sam takes showers.  But if he’s in there more than 15 minutes, knock.  It’s rare for him to seize in there, but you never know.  Don’t let him think you’re checking.  Just pretend you have to go.  They can have dessert before bed.  Nothing chocolate.  And kudos to you if you can find the time to fuck my husband again in between all of that.”

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The Piano Teacher by Janice Y.K. Lee.  It is not as common to come across stories about World War 2 not set in Europe. Janice Lee transport her readers to 1940’s Hong Kong, a vibrant expat community, living lavish lifestyles and caring little about the impending war until it is much too late.  The story is about a British national who finds himself in an interment camp while his Chinese-Portugese lover remains on the outside facing challenges of her own to ensure her survival.  Lee intertwines two story lines, the second in post-war Hong Kong follows many  of the same nationals who are trying to rebuild their lives in the midst of a mystery that has left several of their own dead and a new comer at the centre of the storm.  I devoured this book while a blizzard blanketed much of the Eastern seaboard and while the snow fell, I was lost on the gritty and sour streets of Hong Kong.

From Carol (whose books appear to be thematically related)


urban homesteadThe Urban Homestead:  Your Guide to Self-Reliant Living in the Heart of the City 
by Kelly Coyne and Eric Knutzen.  An entertaining, amiable read about how to live more sustainably in urban environments.  Everything from creating systems for water re-use to permaculture to raising (small) livestock in a backyard.  I particularly enjoyed the combination of matter-of-factness and humour of these authors, and their general optimism about their pursuits.


urban homesteadingUrban Homesteading: Heirloom Skills for Sustainable Living 
by Rachel Kaplan and K. Ruby Blume.  More of the same, with lovely photos, and some useful five year plans for larger projects.  But the tone was heavy and less engaging that The Urban Homestead - if you’re curious, I’d recommend the light paperback by Coyne and Knutzen over this almost coffee table book.


farm cityFarm City:  The Education of an Urban Farmer 
by Novella Carpenter.  A memoir about a woman who sets up a farm on a vacant lot in a rough neighbourhood in Oakland, California.  Carpenter is a good writer, and the book unfolds easily, both informative with an interesting spike of inspiration here and there.  She also has good material, and recounts the adventures of raising and killing animals, including two pigs (not pygmies) in the inner city.  As a squeamish reader who doesn’t eat meat, I skimmed/skipped the passages that related in detail the demise of these creatures, but still found the book to be a wonderful read.

In The Wake of The Christmas Tornado

Christmas hit this house like a tornado leaving in its wake a mess of wrapping paper, boxes and lots of new toys.   Before the holiday my boys purged their nest to make room for new loot and to give new life to their old favourites.  The boys readily donated their gently used toys to a local charity that was seeking donations.

The two weeks between Christmas and the return to school passed in a peaceful blur.  With no schedules dictating what to do, we enjoyed spending time together as a family and indulged in several pajama days playing with new toys, reading new books and over eating delicious food.

Some of our favourite gifts from the holiday:

Lego, Lego and more Lego . . . and some Playmobil too!

We spent several hours tediously arranging and re-arranging Lego and Playmobil sets.  The four-year-old has a vivid imagination and readily integrates the sets to create complex battles between swashbucklin’ pirates and the Queen’s knights.  It continues to amaze me how a set of plastic cubes can be the catalyst for learning about medieval history.  Together we spent many more hours thumbing through books about castles, catapults and cannons as well as searching Google for answers to the many, many questions that were sent my way about pirate life, scurvy and Egypt (because the natural transgression from Medieval life is mummies, tombs and pyramids!).

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The Boogie Board

A gift from Nana, these Boogie Boards have seen lots of use since being unwrapped on Christmas Day.  The Boogie Board is an LCD writing tablet that erases with the click of a button.  The four-year-old practiced his printing while the 6-year-old played Xs and Os with any willing (and some not so willing) participant.  I wrote the boys a goodnight message on each of their boards that first night, and since then they have been asking for one every night.

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Two Greedy Italians

I bought this book for my husband for Christmas – a fantastic cook who needs no help in the kitchen.  Tired of all the reality-based Food Network shows (where are you, Nigella?), we started watching Two Greedy Italians on TLN.  The pair criss-cross Italy, highlighting local fare that extends beyond spaghetti bolognese.  The beautifully photographed book makes a welcome addition to our collection of cookbooks (that I rarely use but love to admire).

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Cleaning Set

Remember the saying: the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree?  My two-year-old son lives up to my university nickname of “Monica” (the cleaning-obsessed, neat-freak character on the 90’s sitcom Friends).  This adult-like cleaning set comes with all the fixings required to give a home a good clean but sized perfectly for little hands.  This gift from his aunt and uncle are the perfect addition to his vacuum.

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Wii

Santa spoiled the boys (and cashed in his Shopper’s Optimum points) with the Nintendo Wii.  Is it wrong that the grown-ups in the house have gotten just as much satisfaction from this gift as the kids?  I never thought that I would say “family time” equals “video game time” . . . but a little bowling and some Just Dance 4 is a guarantee for lots of laughs.

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The Tomten

tomtenWriting this post, I discovered that a tomten (or tomte) is a mythical creature of Scandinavian folklore, similar to the English gnome.  According to Wikipedia, “the tomte or nisse was believed to take care of a farmer’s home and children and protect them from misfortune, in particular at night, when the housefolk were asleep. The Swedish name tomte is derived from a place of residence and area of influence: the house lot or tomt.”

I wish I had this backdrop of information this years ago when I first read The Tomten by Swedish authorAstrid Lindgren, best known for the Pippi Longstocking series.  At that time, I assumed that the Tomten creation (who also appears in Lindgren’s The Tomten and the Fox) was hers alone. But no matter; I fell in love with the book all the same.

This lyrical, rhythmic children’s read takes place in the dead of winter, in the dead of night, when everyone is sleeping except for one:  the old, old Tomten, “who has seen the snow of many hundreds of winters”.  He trips around the buildings of the homestead, checking in on the animals and the people.  No one has ever seen him, but they know he is there.

Lindgren’s illustrations are starkly beautiful and even a wee bit haunting, just the like the winter she portrays.  But they’re gentle too, and the Tomten’s red cap, which is often the only point of high colour on the page becomes a focal point of comfort for both the human and animal characters in the story as well as for the reader.  The Tomten makes his rounds to those under his watch on the farm, ensuring their comfort against the cruel weather, all the while talking to them in Tomten language, “a silent little language” the animals can understand.

The height of the story arrives when the Tomten enters the house of the people, and beholds the sleeping children:

He tiptoes across to the children’s cot, and stands looking for a long time.

“If they would only wake up, then I could talk to them in Tomten language, a silent little language children can understand.  But children sleep at night.”

And away goes the Tomten on his little feet.  In the morning the children see his tracks, a line of tiny footprints in the snow.

This is one of my favourite moments in children’s books everywhere.  Of course we want to meet all the magical, elusive creatures we encounter in our stories, but for me this page is spellbinding.  The Tomten’s desire to know the children is conveyed so powerfully and yet with such restraint, both in words and image.  The Tomten stands, gazing, waiting, longing; but he must leave them unfulfilled.  The child reader must do this too, but when he does, it is at least  with the knowledge that the desire for friendship with the Tomten is mutual.

We don’t live on a rural homestead in the middle of nowhere, but my kids have told me that they have seen Tomten tracks in the snow where we live in the city.  I can tell you that I strain to see them myself, because I am unable to conceive of any protector I would rather have in and around our home.

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Little Women

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            “Christmas won’t be Christmas without any presents,” grumbled Jo, lying on the rug. 

            “It’s so dreadful to be poor!” sighed Meg, looking down at her old dress.

            “I don’t think it’s fair for some girls to have lots of pretty things, and other girls nothing at all,” added little Amy, an injured sniff.

            “We’ve got Father and Mother and each other,” said Beth contentedly, from her corner.

It is in the first chapter of Little Women by Louisa May Alcott, when we are introduced to the four March sisters but it is on the second page we learn that these girls are anything but ordinary growing up in the midst of the American Civil War.

Sixteen-year-old Meg is fiercely dedicated to her family and over the years grows to emulate her feminist mother.  Fifteen-year-old Jo, proves her enviable mane of hair is easier to tame that she.  Quiet, shy and musically gifted Beth is the centre of the sisters’ world and Amy, artistically gifted, is the youngest of the March sisters who is destined to live a life of privilege from an early age.

That first Christmas that we spend with the March sisters we are privy to their innocent quarrels and we are permitted to eavesdrop as they gossip about the war efforts and the mysterious neighbour boy.

After performing their Christmas play for Marmee, the girls collapse into a fit of giggles and it is Beth who perfectly sums up why after more than a hundred years these March girls are still so endearing:

. . . Beth who nestled up to her mother and said, a little later, “How I wish Father were here.  I’m afraid he isn’t having such a merry Christmas as we are.”

How the Grinch Stole Christmas

imagesCAXJ02G8This staple of Christmas books is one of our family favourites.  Who doesn’t love a Seussical rhyme scheme, a dastardly plot to ruin Christmas, and a story that ends with the villain harmoniously reintegrated into the community he so hated?

And the Grinch, with his grinch-feet ice-cold in the snow,
Stood puzzling and puzzling: “How could it be so?
“It came without ribbons!  It came without tags!
“It came without packages, boxes or bags!”
And then he puzzled three hours, till his puzzler was sore.
Then the Grinch thought of something he hadn’t before!
“Maybe Christmas,” he thought, “doesn’t come from a store.
“Maybe Christmas…perhaps…means a little bit more!”

And what happened then…?
Well…in Who-ville they say
That the Grinch’s small heart
Grew three sizes that day!
And the minute his heart didn’t feel quite so tight,
He wizzed with his load through the bright morning light
And he brought back the toys!  And the food for the feast!
And he…

…HE HIMSELF…!

The Grinch carved the roast beast!

Who doesn’t love the sheer exuberance of Dr. Seuss’s language?  Like Shakespeare, he has contributed to the English language with his wonderfully apt neologisms.  We have him to thank for the word grinch, a word not limited to the Christmas season but useful all year ’round.  And, really, I do so identify with The Grinch.  All year ’round I can be heard complaining, “Oh, the noise!  Oh, the Noise!  Noise!  Noise!  Noise!”  And my puzzler gets sore.

My heart is not two sizes too small, but I get you, Grinch, and I celebrate your grinchiness before and after your Christmas morning epiphany and transformation.